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Ep. 54 Episode 27 - [Essential] Linda Flanagan: What Youth Sports Has Become (Part 1)


Before sharing my newest conversation with Linda Flanagan, I wanted to bring back our original discussion—because this is where the conversation started.

In this episode, Linda, author of Take Back the Game, joins me for a powerful look at what youth sports has become. From the pressure parents feel to the commercialization of the system, to the growing concerns around mental health, identity, and early specialization, this conversation pulls back the curtain on the reality many families are navigating today.

Linda brings a unique perspective as a former athlete, longtime coach, parent of three, and journalist who has spent years studying the evolution of youth sports. Together, we explore how we got here, and why so many well-intentioned parents find themselves caught in a system that feels overwhelming, confusing, and at times, misaligned with what's best for their kids.

We talk about:

The fear that drives youth sports decisions today

The pressure to specialize early—and why it can backfire

How identity can become too tied to a single sport

The disconnect between what parents want and what the system demands

Why youth sports can feel far more important than it actually is

This episode is Part 1 of a two-part conversation with Linda.

In Part 2, we shift from understanding the problem to exploring what youth sports can be—and how parents can start making more confident, informed decisions for their families.

If you're a parent trying to navigate the youth sports journey, this is an important place to start.

Because before we can change the experience—we have to understand it.

Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society

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